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December 02, 2005

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Rick

I find it very funny how parents these days let the children be the adult. The fact is, if your child knows what pee and poop is and they can understand when you say dont do that, then its obvious that they are disobeying mommy and daddy when they are told not to pee or poop in their pants and to use the pottie. So when a child disobeyes they get punished. I have 8 children and all have been trained within 4 days and by 15 months old. Be a parent already. And everyone wonders whats wrong with todays youth. ITS THE PARENTS!

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Tim Jackson

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steve

I have to admit to being a little bit shocked by all of these comments. Maybe I'm old world, or old fashioned, but whatever happened to the days of starting your child potty training when they turned two. Generations of children did it this way with to permanent ramifications to their psyche. I have two children, and potty trained both of them. Yes, it is hard and taxing work. Yes, you have to remain diligent and committed. Yes, the reward is unbelievable.
These are my four easy steps to potty training your child.
1. Once you start, you cannot quit. No matter how much you want to, you cannot quit. If you do, your child is now in control of this situation.
2. No diapers or pull-ups when you start. If the child is going to soil themselves for a week straight, that means you will be cleaning up puddles and poop for a week straight. Load up on paper towels, disinfectant, and laundry detergent.
3. Place your child on the toilet every 1/2 hour to 1 hour, until the begin to grasp it. If your child kicks and screams, deal with it. You cannot give in or quit. After a day, your child will know you are serious.
4. Don't forget the rewards. Be it stickers, toys, books, or candy. Reward them every time they go. Thank them for trying every time they don't. As they say, your child wants to make you happy.
In closing, this is not suppose to be easy. Just like parenting, it is a job. Treat it as such, and you will find the strength to complete it. Both of my children have been potty trained when they turned two. I have a boy first, and a girl second. Neither is what I would call gifted. Just your average run of the mill children. If I can do this, so can you.

P.S. This talk of potty boot camp is a cop-out. Suck it up, and do your job as a responsible parent.

Alice H

I mentioned in the potty training boot camp article that I shipped my son off to PTBC. One thing that I noticed when I was over visiting a few days ago was that the younger kids notice the older kids using the potty and then they start asking to use it too. Are there any kids close to your daughter's age that are already potty trained that your daughter could look to for an example?

Maria

Every kid is different and you know your kid. My oldest trained in 2 weeks when he was 2 1/2- but now has nightly accidents as a 6 hr old (yes, I am more worried about hurting his feelings by putting him in a pull up than the extra laundry - my MIL is horrified.) My second son wanted to be like his big brother and started trying to train at 2. By the time he was almost 4 he was pretty trained and I don't know when we'll get rid of the nighttime pull up (yes, I do a LOT of laundry...) My daughter is 18 mos - and from what I can tell - I don't know when she'll train, but it will be on her terms...

Follow your instinct and don't succumb to peer pressure. Isn't that what we'll tell our kids when they're in school?

Christy

Well, I just finished potty training 2 1/2 yr old triplets. I feel the key to this training thing is the prep work. By talking about it and introducing it on a gradual basis, by the time big potty day arrives they are prepared for your expectations and looking forward to the new adventure ahead. I have trained quite a few kids over the years and this has never failed.

Roni

Don't fret...Ella hit potty training like a crazy person just last week. Out of no where she started saying "I go by myself...walk away please!" She sometimes actually pees and sometimes just sits there, but she's pulling her own pants off and getting up on the toilet herself. I wasn't pushing her more than you are pushing IBelle. I really think it's up to them. Good luck!

The downside? Yesterday Ella came out of a friend's bathroom with her diaper around her ankles saying "poop!" Yup...a diaper full of poop inches from the floor.

elise

I'm with you. I didn't "train" my kids until they were over three years old. I don't think they were ready until then. At least not as ready as I wanted them to be - meaning very few accidents. Some kids seem ready at two years old and I've seen some that weren't ready until four. I don't think its a big deal no matter when they get potty trained.

Shelley

You do not know how much I needed to read this today. My son is almost 3 and has NEVER done either on the potty. He'll sit and/or stand by the toilet like a champ, but nothing -- absolutely refuses. Sign me . . . or shall I say, my son, up for the boot camp.

Robin P

Everyone told me not to push Lillianna to potty train but I was stressing out when she was 2 1/2. When she was 3,we went to visit my mom for 10 days in Florida. Mom said we would keep Lillianna in underwear only when we were in the condo and put her on the potty every 30 minutes or so. That seemed to work. By the time we went home,she was ok with peeing in the potty. Pooping was a different story.

She would ask for a diaper when she had to poop and then go behind the couch or in her closet for privacy. She wouldn't even do it standing in the bathroom. It was a control thing.

One of my friends told me that she struggled with her son to potty train and he simply refused. Finally she gave up. One day,when he was 4, he handed her his diapers and put on his "big boy underwear" and never had a single accident after that. It was his decision.

The bottom line for me was that Lillianna was potty trained by the time she got to pre-school. That was my deadline and we made it!
Good luck!

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