You have to.
Its not fair.
Its not a question of fair. You just have to do it ... now!
Why won't you listen?
I have listened, and we just keep covering the same ground over and over. You just need to do it now…
Eventually there is crying and yelling and on a bad day, there is slamming the door, taking away a privilege and I'm "the meanest Dad in the whole world."
That was four days ago.
Then three days ago it got worse.
Two days ago everything blew up, and I took away all privileges forever (or so it must have seemed to Colter).
Yesterday, all was calm. The conflict had peaked and petered out. A contrite (well, maybe regretful) Colter offered his drink to me, asked "please" and said "Thank you, Daddy."
Today he is coughing and sneezing. Today he is sick.
This is the pattern. It repeats itself several times a year. But it is a hard pattern to recognize. Two days into it, it seems like just a bad couple of days. At the end of four days, I'm so frazzled that I couldn't recognize a pattern if it were tattooed on my forearm. So I quickly forgive myself for not seeing it coming. How was I to know he was becoming sick? And I quickly forgive Colter. His vitality was fading and that made him cranky.
Now my question is this: Is he getting cranky for four to five days before a cold or flu, or is the stress of the conflict suppressing his immune system and allowing him to succumb?