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April 22, 2004

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Anne-Marie

Whoops, I made a mistake - the PAGER (Pediatric Adolescent Gastroesophageal Reflux Association) web site is www.reflux.org.

Anne-Marie

I had 2 refluxers who grew out of it when they started crawling. My daughter had the painful kind. Zantac and Reglan helped ALOT. You can see our story at http://mamarant.blogs.com/a_mamas_rant/2004/03/a_tale_of_two_r.html.

Three things I found helpful: The book, "Happiest Baby on the Block", the colic and reflux boards on babcenter.com, and the info on reflux at pager.com.

Martha

We're definitely on the reflux bandwagon. He's taking Zantac for it, which has helped with his painful eating. But he still likes to holler.

Melissa

Amanda, same with my second! He had 'silent reflux' which just meant he was having tiny little 'urps' of acid in his throat which made him quite fussy. 'Professor Fussy Pants' as a matter of fact.

Zantac and zoloft really got us through that first year.

Amanda

Martha: Have you ruled out reflux? My second didn't even spit up that much, but the anti-heartburn medication worked wonders. Turned her from the baby you are describing into a happy, calm child.

Martha

Thanks everybody. It's nice to know I'm not alone. I'm almost afraid to type it, lest I jinx myself, but things have been seeming like they're on the upswing for the last week or so. More fussing and crying, and less full-out screaming. I'm also well on my way to having the World's Most Muscular Thighs, as one thing that is pretty much guaranteed to calm Simon down is holding him and doing squats. Up and down. Up and down. For a really long time. The second you stop, he starts in. So I keep squatting...

Melissa

I lived in utter fear of Colic from the moment I pushed my baby out into the world.

I distinctly remember laying on the delivery table and asking the nurse: "She's crying a lot isn't she? Does she have colic? Oh God...she has colic doesn't she!!??"

She assured me she was simply crying because she was NEWLY BORN!

The colic fear followed me through her entire first year and if I'm being honest, sometimes-even though she's 5 now, I still worry it's colic.

Hang in there I honestly can't imagine it. Well I can and it doesn't make me feel happy inside.

Robin

My friend's baby had colic but I never understood it until I read your post. No wonder she was so grumpy all the time.
Thank god this doesn't last forever. One day you will look back on this and laugh...oh I didn't mean TODAY, but some day like 30 years from now. Plus the bonus is you can use this against your child for the rest of your life. "What do you mean you won't clean your room? Do you know how long you had colic? Do you know what I went through with you because I LOVE you? .....what? Oh you WILL clean your room? OK sweetie! Thank you!" Guilt guilt guilt....it works!

Jo

Big hugs to you...I can't imagine what it would be like to deal with a colicky wee one. As it is, my 4.5 month old son hates, I mean LOATHES his carseat, so he could be classified as colicky anytime we step foot near the car, while driving in the car, while getting out of the car. He screams like his arm just fell off the entire time we are in its vacinity. Baby screaming is probably one of the worst sounds our ears endure. I feel for you.

It is good that you recognize you are sooo not alone in this experience, and that it will end - thankfully. Anytime you need to vent or e-talk, I am here (hey - a new friend!) to listen. Seriously. New moms need each other to share the good stuff and to help get through the hard.

The advice above is good. There have only been a few times when I have had to let my son cry because, quite honestly, I was at a breaking point. (Usually the end of a long day where I got little sleep the night before). I think this happens to all of us at some point or another. Crying in a bouncy or a crib for a few minutes while you recollect yourself, shower, or tune out is not going to hurt the baby at all. It's better to do that than to raise your voice or something unimaginably worse. A good mom is one who recognizes this job is wonderful, but it's not easy, and sometimes, after the stress elevates too high, you need a moment to yourself...

Susan

I feel so bad for you - and all parents going through this. I was so lucky that neither of mine had colic. I had a friend that had a colicky baby and they really went through hell.

I remember when my daughter was 5 months old she got her first flu-like sickness. I remember her having the dry heaves and wimpering and looking at me for help to relieve her from the misery. I imagine that besides the stress that the endless crying puts on you the helplessness of not being able to take away the pain is the worst. It must be so hard on all of you - and it can't make any part of your life easy. I imagine you can't even get a babysitter for a break because you know what they'd have to go through to watch your child.

It's great the you are voraciously reading and investigating colic. It will not take it away but it might help to get you through it - especially knowing that it will eventually end.

mvh made an excellent point. If you are so stressed that you feel like you need to lash out at something put the baby down in the crib and shut yourself in another room for a few minutes. Find a pillow and beat the heck out of it. :)

Good luck and I hope you have the shortest duration of colic ever.

mvh

You will get through it, you are right - but God, how awful in the mean time. I was there not long ago (the colic ceased about 4-5 months ago). It will push you to your very limit.

Anyway, here are some things that I found to be helpful:
- The bouncy seat is worth its weight in gold. I would put Lily in it, sit in an armchair, turn on the TV and bounce her with my right hand for hours.
- When she would REALLY get going, there was this one way of holding her that I discovered out of desperation. If you hold your forearm in front of you against your body, put the baby on top, tummy down. My forearm would run down the length of her tummy, her head would rest in the crook of my arm. It worked SO well. I learned a couple of months later that it is actually called the 'colic cradle'.
- When you feel yourself truly running out of patience, in a I-might-throw-the-baby-out-the-window type of way, put the baby down somewhere. S/he will continue to scream and cry, but nothing terrible will happen in the crib. Mommy's arms could be a different story. This doesn't make you a bad parent - quite the opposite, it shows that you know your limits.

Good luck - you will get through this, I PROMISE.

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