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May 21, 2004


happy manic

back when i was a kid, i had a bad experience. my grandmother was vacationing with us. she went back and died the minute she stepped in. a few weeks later, my uncle and aunt were both killed in a head on collision by a drunk. to this day, i'm scared of death


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i'm very manic depressive. neat blog you have.


My 5-year-old son has had several experiences with death; two of his pet birds and his grandfather. One of his two birds died first, thus giving me an example to use for his dying grandfather. It helped me to explain what was going to happen to Grandpa; just like the bird was sick, so Grandpa is sick and will die soon. Shortly after Grandpa died, the other bird died, allowing me to reinforce what had happen, but just like the two remaining birds who are alive and well, not everyone is going to die right away.

Tony comes back to this topic once in a while, only to confirm that Grandpa is dead, or that Skyler was sick so he died, and Sammy is not alive anymore.

(I use sign lanugage in my house, so Tony always includes the ASL sign for dead in our conversations. It seems to help make the idea concrete in his own mind.)


My daughter who will be three in August has been talking about death a lot. She very non-chalantly told a room full of my co-workers that her grandma was old and she was going to die soon. Her grandma's not even fifty yet. It's good to hear that my kid's not the only one on a death kick and that this is normal... this IS normal right?


wow deep conversation from a little kid. My kids haven't had too many death questions yet. Even when david's Grandma died. Maybe they are like me and don't like to think about it.


The funny thing is, Emma doesn't seem worried about it at all, even when discussing her own death. She's not scared, just trying to suss things out, as near as I can tell.

(And I didn't mention to the neighbor that Em was predicting her kid's death. I doubt she'd have laughed about it.)


hahaha Very funny post. :)

At least once or twice a week, at bedtime, Erin will worry over death. She asks a lot of the same questions your daughter asks. We give a lot of the same answers. For Erin, I think it is mostly because at bedtime she is lying still and just thinking. If a train of thought leads her to the topic of death, she can't seem to get her mind off of it. She will invariably start crying and my heart breaks for her. I tell her she doesn't need to worry about it for a long, long time. That usually helps relieve the worry.


My daughter, who is 4 and a half, asks questions like that all the time. She's the only child I know who loves to look out the window intently when we drive pass a cemetary. Definitely morbid.


Wow!! I wonder what questions this little one will ask me. I need to prepare huh.


LOL! When my youngest sister was about Emma's age, she used to cry at the thought of her Mommy and Daddy dying. Turned out, though, that it wasn't because she'd miss them, exactly. She was crying because she didn't know how to cook or drive or do any of the things grownups did, and how would she survive? I think she seriously had a vision of herself living in the house, alone, responsible for everything. It just didn't occur to her that some other adult might take care of her!

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