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May 04, 2004



Thank you all so much for replying to my query! It's very helpful to get a good point-of-view from those who have been there and done that. I think my employer will be flexible, after all, I do most of my job from home as it is, I just want to be sure I go at it from the right angle. And, as much as I am dying to tell everyone, I'm keeping a lid on it... I do want it to come from me, not from the rumor mill!
Thank you again, you're great.


I was a technician for an ophthalmology practice for 7 years before I got pregnant. People gave birth and came back to work part time all the time so it was no big deal for me at all. I was very fortunate and after 14 years I am still there.
I will rely on other readers to give you work advice but I will give you the advice I have given all my friends and they have all said it was something they hadn't thought about. Don't commit to how many hours you will work after the baby is born until you have held that baby! Many of my friends couldn't go back to work as many hours as they had planned because they didn't know that mommy-child bond would be stronger than anything else in the world.
You say you are also self-employed. Is this something you could expand so that you could give up your other job and be home with your baby?
Not everyone feels like they need to stay home full time so I am just throwing this out there but you know yourself best. Make a plan that will work for you.
Good luck!


I was lucky that with each of my pregnancies I worked for wonderful people. I had no problems telling them. As a matter of fact, I was pregnant when interviewing for one of my jobs (they came looking for me - I wasn't hunting for a job while pregnant). It was amazing to me that in each case, they asked, "How do you feel about it? Do you think it will affect your work?" I gave them honest answers and they said, "OK" and that was that.

With my first I worked up until I gave birth (well, I was at work Friday and she was born on Sunday). With my second there were lots of complications and I ended up being on bedrest. For that reason, I highly recommend using the second trimester to prepare for your maternity leave - it may come sooner than expected.

Good luck!

Hope Wilbanks

I would say make a plan. Determine what you want to do and write it down. Show them that you have given this (the job) thought and how you would like to go about doing things. Like Ann said, make sure they hear the news from YOU, though. :)

Ann Douglas

The most important thing is to ensure that your boss hears your news from you. So if you feel the need to share your news with someone else at work before you're ready to make your official announcement, it's really important to swear this person to secrecy.

Of course, if you gag every time you walk past the coffee pot or you're dashing to the bathroom to pee every 15 minutes, it's not going to take people very long to put two and two together and figure out that you've hit the reproductive jackpot. :-)


I approached each boss (direct supervisor, department director and the secretary) individually and told them. I also asked them to keep it between the four of us until I was further into my second semester.

I tried to keep them up on any plans I made or issues that came up. I kept telling them that they would have to take me to the hospital because I was going to work until I had the baby. They didn't believe me. I left the office when my contractions were five minutes apart! Ha.

You'll want to plan for how your projects will be handled when you go on leave. Try to wind things down towards your due date and provide you employers with a status report on the projects you are involved with when you go on maternity leave.

You'll also want to know how your company's maternity leave/FMLA policy works and what you will need to do to satisfy the policy's requirements.

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