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August 07, 2004

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VJ

I started fertility treatments when Angelo and I discovered that we have virtually no chance of conceiving again (Tony was "natural" and from what we know now, my pregnancy with him should have been technically impossible). However, when my job was threatened because of the fertility treatments, I was scared enough to drop them. I still lost my job and with it the insurance to keep trying. I don't know if we will ever try again.

Jo

Good for you for being open and honest about it. I have a good handful of friends from various message boards I've belonged to for years now who are still TTC with no luck. It breaks my heart. When one does succeed be it through treatments or whatever, I consider it a miracle all the same. I, too, think it's great the CCA is speaking out on the issue. It is a blessing we have such medicine available!

Melissa S

In dumb old Michigan I don't feel the 'shame' of seeking fertility help, or not conceiving via 'traditional' means. But maybe it's because a) I haven't been on that end of things or b) because I tend to be pretty open minded and don't give a lot of thought to those types of things.

What I have found, when I hear about someone's struggle to have a baby, is that I feel I have a deeper understanding of their experience as a mother. The profound gratitude of motherhood is right there on top of everything..but there, just like me, is the exhaustion and overwhelming nature of the job.

Mieke

Maybe it's just where I live, but here in Los Angeles you are just as likely to have coceived your baby through IVF as you are to have "naturally", that here at least it is a non-issue. People talk about it with ZERO shame. They talk about it on the playground, in music class, with clients who have to postpone meetings because they have to race to the doctor's office because the time is now. I just had lunch with a male executive of a major network who went into detail about their last round of IVF and how nervous he was because they would learn the next day if it "took" (it did).

Additionally, as frequent as it is to hear about IVF, I am just as likely to talk to a mother about the recent adotion of her baby.

Mieke

Maybe it's just where I live, but here in Los Angeles you are just as likely to have coceived your baby through IVF as you are to have "naturally", that here at least it is a non-issue. People talk about it with ZERO shame. They talk about it on the playground, in music class, with clients who have to postpone meetings because they have to race to the doctor's office because the time is now. I just had lunch with a male executive of a major network who went into detail about their last round of IVF and how nervous he was because they would learn the next day if it "took" (it did).

Additionally, as frequent as it is to hear about IVF, I am just as likely to talk to a mother about the recent adotion of her baby.

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