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August 17, 2004

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AGK

Welcome to DotMoms!!!

It's completely possible to still be YOU while being MOM. Right now it might seem like your other selves need to remain below the surface, but you can honestly learn to balance without going crazy :)

Like Meg, I never had the chance to explore life NOT being a mom; it's the only life I know, really. But I've learned that I can have my own interests, etc...and it makes life much more interesting and fun for ALL of us.

Meg

Would you like to hear something strange? I'm jealous of YOU. I also got pregnant unexpectedly - but it happened when I was 19. I never got the chance to explore the non-mother-adult-me. I have no old versions of Meg to fall back on. None sitting beneath the surface waiting for the chance to jump out. The last time my husband and I had a babysitter, we drove around town saying, "What do you want to do?" "I don't know, what would YOU like to do?" LOL We ended up going to Walmart and Target, exploring options for birthday presents for the kids, and looking for something the babysitter had mentioned in passing that she wanted. How sad is that?

I fear that I won't have the opportunity to discover the "real" me hidden beneath all of the Mom-me until the kids are all grown - which will take a while, considering the youngest is only three.

emily

I have really been struggling with this alot in the past year.Some days its not so bad,but others its very hard to seperate the many things I am.I have to remind myself...I'm not just a mother.

emily

I have really been struggling with this alot in the past year.Some days its not so bad,but others its very hard to seperate the many things I am.I have to remind myself...I'm not just a mother.

Jo

Hi Beth! Ahhh - you are right on with it all. It's hard, isn't it, to juggle your former you with the new at times. We tried for Liam; I prayed for him for three years before we started, and thankfully he came within two short months. Yet when he arrived, I felt like my life had been slapped upside the head with a stick (a happy stick, but a stick nonetheless). I am a Type-A, super active can't-sit-still person myself, and having a baby, to say the least, slows one down. I have adjusted, happily - nomore stick :) I am also just now realizing, as you have so eloquently suggested, that all the different parts of me that made me B.L. (before liam) are there and present and if not active, waiting :) Cheers to being you all the time. Your kid will have a great life with you, as it sure sounds like you have much to offer him.

Now, I am off to change a poopy diaper!

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