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January 23, 2005


Robin P

Your post inspired me to write about this on my own blog.

Robin P

They say that if you ask a room full of adults,"Who can sing?" only a few will raise their hands. If you ask the same question to a room full of kids they will ALL raise their hands!

You did the right thing. Kids need our love and support in all areas of their life.If they can't feel loved and appreciated from their parents then what do they have?

I never thought I was a great artist but when I was 11 and my mom was pregnant, I went to an art class during the summer and made a present for her. On a piece of wood I had the art teacher draw 2 baby booties. I glued dried beans on it to form the shoes and I used little split peas to make the laces. It was very clever. Then I painted one shoe blue and the other pink. I loved it and couldn't wait to give it to mom. It took 4 classes to make it. When I gave it to her she smiled politely and wondered what to do with it. I felt a pang in my heart. Finally she decided to put it on the stereo. (That's when a stereo was a huge piece of furniture!)
After a few days it got in her way and she asked if I was done with it. DONE with it???????? I held back the tears and said, "I guess so," and she threw it away. I was crushed.Thirty years later and it still hurts me.

Everything Lillianna does goes on the refrigerator and the back door which is magnetic. We rotate them every few days. She chooses what goes up and what comes down.
I "oooh and ahhhh" over everything she does....singing,dancing,painting, you name it, we encourage it. Because the truth is, I am proud of everything she does because she tries so hard.
She wants to be on American Idol too.....lol. Let's just wait and see how that goes.

I never want to be a dream crusher and you don't either. Let's keep cheering our kids on. They deserve it!


Well done. Encouragement is the best motivator, and discouragement stings.

In an effort to keep me from 'getting a swelled head' my father did not pay me one compliment that I can remember until I was in my twenties. He also told me quite honestly that he found attending junior high school musicals to be torture. No matter how many other people encouraged my acting (my singing really IS terrible), I felt both discouraged and convinced that my father wasn't a very nice person.

I will encourage my daughter to dream as big as she likes, and never let her doubt for a second that I believe in her.


I definitely think you did the right thing. Her ego is fragile and forming and looking beyond the singing, she needs a cheerleader and confidence. You're helping her develop that... good for you!


I agree, that not all popular singers are GODD singers. I also think maybe you have a songWRITER in the making, if not a singer.

The most inportant thing my Mother tought me when I was growing up was that I could do anything...if I set my mind to it. I'm a firm believe rin that, it's gotten me far, and helped me push to acomplish things people said I would never be able to. You remind me of my Mom, who is also my best friend. Great Job.


Just a thought... and I hope I don't offend, but my mom used to say I could be an olympic figure skater too. The problem was we didn't have money for lessons, or costumes, or skates even. So, I think it is great to encourage your daughter (as I will mine), and that she wants to be a singer now but is terrible, well, that will change probably, but as a parent, we should all make sure that we point out to our kids that just wanting something isn't enough. It takes long hours, hard work and dedication... and as Lei said, we don't have to be the best at something, but if you enjoy doing it, then that might be the best reward. Keep the dreams alive, but don't lead them blindly into something. Be sure to help them realize the successes!


Love the story, Suzanne. You did a great job with it. And I'd absolutely love to see your daughter take Simon down a notch or two. :-)


Hey, look at Neil Young, Bob Dillon, and an entire slew of modern day alternative rockers. You don't need to be a great singer!!


Aww, what a great story. And you are SUCH a good mom! *g*


Realistically, if it were my son, I'd probably say he has potential and could maybe become a great singer if he practiced a lot. Then, I'd tell him that we can still enjoy something even if we're not the best at it. We can't be a star at everything we try.


Beautiful story. I hope that I can do the same for my own children, the way my mother did for me. She always encouraged me, even when my stories involved characters who had escaped from the villain's clutches (although I had forgotten to untie them in the story draft).


Very good. What a great lesson!

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