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January 05, 2005



I agree that I'd rather be forewarned (I'm not a mom yet). And the internet is very helpful in this regard, especially with blogs and journals written by women who are mothers. I've learned a LOT that I would never get out of books, or from friends. I don't want to be surprised, for instance, when I find myself pooping in front of my husband on the hospital bed (to name one example).

Though I have to admit that that Grumble Magazine piece linked below is the most horrifying childbirth-related thing I've ever read. It makes me glad that I won't be doing this anytime soon!


I heard it all beforehand, but it didn't help prepare me for it. I had thought childbirth would be the worst pain imaginable, but apparently my imagination left too much to the imagination. Becuase it was WAY worse.

I'm thinking this hypnobirthing thing might help next time around.


No, I think it's much better to be forewarned, at least, as much as possible. I just read a great webzine article on the topic - for one woman's recovery experiences see: http://www.grumblemagazine.com/articles/crack/pregnancy/


I do agree with you... I used hypnobirthing to have my kids, so I spent my childbearing classes "deprograming" about labor and delivery, not allowing any mention of pain, only "surges" and "pressure." I don't think it does any good to focus on pain going into it, because it just makes the mom scared and fear makes pain increase exponentially. So yes, I agree, mum's the word! :)
Although I did have some pain, it wasn't as bad as I'd thought having listened to all the horror stories growing up.


Exactly my feeling. After giving birth, going through major surgery (third degree tear), and living through months of laxatives, pain, and no sex, I wondered, "Why didn't anybody ever mention this?". But now I have newly pregnant friends, and I'm sparing the horror stories for the good bits. They don't have a choice but to experience it all, what's the point of stressing before it happens? The one thing that I wish people had been more open about was the postnatal depression. It only lasted for a couple of weeks, but I was in no way prepared for my feelings of depression, inadequacy, fear, anxiety, and general unhappines. I thought that I was a terrible mother. Then I started attending baby groups a couple of months in and found out that nearly everybody had felt exactly the same way. I'm open about this part and tell new mom to be to expect it. Hopefully it won't happen, but if it does, just get all of the support that you can and unless its severe, you'll be right again in a couple of weeks time.


It is a super secret club. Though it seems hard to describe and a little unbelievable. There may be no point to telling the "newbies" ahead of time. I'm sure I wouldn't have truly understood before actually experiencing it all. We - the "been there's" - just wait in the wings, ready to welcome all comers. And nod our heads when a new mom says "But I had no idea..."


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