The jabber gene

By Jenn

I have been staying home with my kids for nearly 12 years. More than a decade. One third of my life. It's what I signed up for and what I love. But, can I share a secret with you? There are days it sucks the life out of me.

When my husband comes home from work he is bombarded with mindless chatter that would make a lesser man's head explode. After a long day with no one but children to talk to, I really have a lot to say! Sure, much of it is completely insignificant, but the fact is I am usually so desperate for adult communication by early evening that any person over the age of 21 will fit the bill.

This is why my husband encourages any kind of "Ladies Night Out" when I suggest it. It is also the reason he signed us up for a cell phone plan with more minutes than any human being can possibly use. The poor man just wants me to get most of my chatter out before he gets home.

Early in our marriage this probably would have hurt my feelings. I would have come at him with a sob story about how he just didn't love me enough to want to share every single detail about my life on a daily basis. Today, I am more than thrilled that I can talk until my jaw goes numb and my ear starts to bleed from having a phone attached to it all day.

I sometimes wonder if moms who work outside the home have this same deep need to just be with and converse with adults or if those needs are met in the workplace. I do know that for a stay-at-home mom, friendships are vitally important to the sanity of the entire family. Not only can they be a lifeline when you are feeling lonely, but can definitely make a marriage happier. (Just ask my better half!)

In fact, my husband no longer goes into convulsions within a half-hour of being home because I no longer have a burning desire to talk to him until he passes out. I have girlfriends. I have the phone. I have friends who understand that there is more to life than which Dora episode is on, what park has the best monkey bars, and where the nearest clean pool is located.

Now all I need is a plan for my daughter Gabriella. She has definitely inherited my jabber gene. Her future husband will need patience and a great cell phone provider!

Jenn is a 34-year-old stay-at-home mom who lives in Texas with her husband and three children.

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[Jenn Hay]

As a 30 year old stay-at-home Mom of 3 kids and only one vehicle---that my husband, by the way, takes to work, sometimes overnight for several nights---I've found it can be really easy to become isolated so I've made it a point not to be. Isolated, that is, and it sounds to me like that's what a site like this is all about. It's great that other busy moms are finding a bit of themselves in the crazy world of motherhood, and by doing so giving something of themselves for other Moms---and Dads---to read and think about. Keep up the wonderful work because it is appreciated!

[amy s.]

I work outside the home and the office talk is a good outlet for adult conversation. By the time I get home, I barely want to say a word for the first hour or so!

[RobinP]

Since I work more than I want to, sometimes I don't want to talk to anyone at all when I get home.
That's not to say I don't call Rich on my way home from work and catch him up on my comings and goings. I love our cell phones.

As for Lillianna.....she has my jabber gene too. She gets on the phone with Lena (my sister's boyfriend's 7 year old daughter)and they choreograph dance numbers and sing on the phone to each other. It drives me insane!!!!!!!!!