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September 30, 2005



I am 27 and my husband and I just started trying to have a baby - no luck yet. I feel like it's all I think about 24 hours a day (so much so that I came across this thread after googling 'How to deal with baby fever'.) He is on board with making a baby, but he doesn't understand my 'obsession' with it. Quite frankly, I don't either! I know we have it good with out kids, but I can't rationalize away the desire. I know that when the time is right, I will get pregnant, but it's the waiting that's killing me. I am glad to know that I'm not the only woman going through this.


I'm 22 and my husband teased me earlier this year with the notion of having a baby. After unsuccessfully trying we both decided we'd jumped the gun and it would be best to wait until we had health insurance. We even said we'd celebrate the day we got our Health Insurance by going home a making a baby. Now he doesn't want to. He wants to wait a few years. I'm completely devastated. Rationally he's right. We should wait and build up our assets, but everytime I see a baby my uterus just aches.

I really want 5-7 kids, but my husband is maxed out at the notion of 3. Which I could live with, but still.

Tiana S

I am 26 and my husbnad is almost 40. He has 2 kids that are both just about grown up, and a vasectomy. And all of a sudden, after telling myself for years that I did not want any kids, I find that I am aching so bad to have his baby. Of course, my husband does not really want any (though that was not the reason behind the vasectomy) and I do not even know how to talk to him about the burning desire I have. It actually hurts to think that I may never have his baby. I love my husband so much and want to share every part of my life with him, including creating new life. But I cannot take feeling like I am going crazy. And I do not know what to do....


I guess there is no vaccine for this baby fever, hm?

I'm 24, married a year-and-a-half. My husband is 30.

We discussed kids when we were dating, and we both decided that we didn't want to have kids for various reasons.

But, a year-and-a-half later, I'm dying to have a baby. I know we're not ready for one (and my husband isn't sure he's ready for any!!)

But everytime I see a baby, I get this intense yearning...

As, I said, I wish there was a vaccine for this.


I am 34 and have been married for 13 1/2 yrs. We have 3 kids, 2 girls (13 & 10 yrs old) and 1 boy (8yrs). After both of my girls, I had some mild baby fever but by the time I had my son... I was done having babies. I was ready to have my tubes tied and everything. My husband talked me out of it. I spent the next 6 to 7 years dead set on not having any more. I could hardly handle the ones I had. But... the past year at least, I have started having baby fever. I thought it would pass with time. This time though, it has gradually gotten stronger and stronger. My husband has been on the same page as me about being done. Now I want a baby so bad I can taste it. I end up complete depressed when my period comes. The only protection we have been using for the past year is condoms and I keep hoping that it will fail some day. I want to be pregnant so bad. I want to feel our beautiful creation moving in my stomach. I want to hold him/her in my arms. I have even gotten over my dread of diapers again and potty training again. My husband thinks I am crazy because we are finally at a new phase where there is more time for us and our life isn't just about the kids anymore. We would have to start all over but I can't help it. I WANT A BABY! I want his baby. What is wrong with me???

Ashley S

My husband was a single dad with a baby girl when I met him and then we added another one to the mix. Now baby girl will be 3 in a few days, baby boy is 16 months and I am practically drooling over every baby I see. A few months ago I asked hubby how soon he wanted to have another and he confessed he'd been wanting me to bring it up. We discussed having 4 kids before we got married, but I love being preggers and our kids are so great that I could see us with a whole soccer team. I think 5 would be perfect for us! We are going to start trying in about 3 months and I'm having to force myself not to start now lol.

Stacey N

I wonder how women deal with this. I am 27 and have baby fever so bad, I swear I can feel myself ovulating! My husband is not quite ready, and he admits that I am kinda freaking him out with all of this baby talk. And granted, we are definitely NOT in the position now to have a baby. But tell that to my uterus! These are not just sugar-coated thoughts of booties and diapers, it is a very real biological reaction in my gut. It's quite an uneasy feeling, knowing that you cannot intellectually "reason" yourself out of these feelings.

Chili Mac

This was an awesome read. I'm 24 and this baby fever has me wanting 4 kids. Right now I have an almost 3 year old.


I have no children yet. My husband and I are hoping to start trying this fall. We are both hoping for a large family. I want at least 4, and he tells everyone we are having 6. We'll see...

Right now my ovaries are aching to make a baby. I'm at the point that I can hold a sleepy, crying 2 year old for half an hour and not be the least bit bothered by it.

Maria P

I have two (one of each). Before my 2nd one was due I drove my husband crazy with my pregnancy complaints that he literally ran to the vasectomy clinic. I was dead sure (I would have bet my life) that I never wanted to be pregnant again.

Then I got to know myself and my kids better. I began to learn and realize what a beautiful thing birth was and how precious my children really are. So a little over half a year ago I got major baby yearnings.

We have been back and forth with getting a reversal and we have watched the "3 year" mark for the reversal come and go. Some days are harder than others. My emotions have run a large gamut. Too many to list here. Right now I am kind of looking for a way to make this intense baby fever go away... but I would love to wake up and find myself pregnant one day.


I am not a mom yet, but I have an intense yearning for a child. I am 28 and in my first really serious relationship. I hoping this is not my biological clock and just an intense desire within to connect with my boyfriend. Any thoughts?


Is normal for guys to have baby fever? I am 31, and all of a sudden I have baby fever. This is a really strange feeling, especially for a single successful guy.


I have three and honestly that is all I wanted from the time I was a little kid and dreaming about being a mommy. When I suffered from fertility problems after having my daughter (I had a boy then a girl) I knew I was suppose to have one more boy. I just felt it to my very core. When my oldest two kids were 11 and 8 I miraculously got pregnant with my youngest child. The whole pregnancy I felt complete and sure this was the last and when I held Aidan I felt this sense of wholeness like nothing I'd ever felt before. It was awesome. He'll be three next month and there are times I miss HIM as a baby but I just can't imagine having another baby...ever. So no, no baby lust here and I'm so very thankful too. LOL


What's with that estrogen and wanting babies. I have 5, which really is enough. I KNOW that I really can't handle more than that--I can barely handle the ones I have (that project is due WHEN? and you found out about it HOW LONG AGO?). But my youngest just turned two, and I've never had a two year old without a new baby, or been pregnant and about to have another baby, so it's different. I keep thinking, "maybe just one more", and "it's so much fun when they are little", but then I remind myself that it's not always that much fun dealing with them for the rest of their lives. I mean, one more to go to Kindergarten, one more to play soccer, one more to take to dance lessons. Enough is enough. Right?


I have a 19 month old daughter, and we are planning to try for one (and considering maybe two) more. But secretly, in my fantasy world? I want six. That's not going to happen, but I definitely see the appeal of a big family.


I wanted two. But my second son was stillborn at 35 weeks and now I just don't know what I want. I think the universe owes me at least one more...maybe two. But I have to seperate my anger from my true desire to have more children. Can I risk it again?


I have seven, giving birth to my seventh a month after my eldest son turned 10. And I have reached that mystical place of not wanting anymore.

I love having a large family, though I realize it isn't for everyone.


I have one daughter Charlotte who is just five. I always wanted a huge family and still would if I could get my husband to agree. He doesn't want anymore children so reluctantly I go along with him.


I was almost 44 when I had my first baby -- who will be two next month. I would love love love to have just one more. Even on the hardest days, I'm so grateful that I didn't miss out on this experience. I just found out my niece is expecting and it stirred up those "so happy for you/why not me feelings" again. I would so love to do it all over again.

Alice H

I would love to have three, and maybe more if we could afford a bigger house without me going back to work full-time, but I had gestational hypertension and mild preeclampsia with my son and it looks like it's already starting up again at 16 weeks of pregnancy. My husband is completely wigged, certain that something VERY AWFUL is going to happen this time, and I don't think I can deal with his stress a third time.

Plus, I'm 33 and my husband is 37, and my husband is already nervous about the fact that he will be 55 when our (currently) youngest one graduates high school, and we will still be putting him/her through college at 59 or 60. He's not convinced he will live past 55.

My husband is a little neurotic.

The trying twos are definitely rewarded by what a wonderful three-year-old my son is turning out to be, by the way. If we could space them out so that we're mostly out of the twos by the time the next one is on its way, I'd probably keep having babies as long as we could find room for them.


I have two children. I *think* I would like three, but when I look deep into my ovary-aching soul I realize I really just want another pregnancy and another baby. The idea of another little person growing up and going to school (you mean I have to volunteer in ANOTHER classroom?!) is less appealing.

I agree that it's probably God's great plan to have us all craving babies. Survival of the species and all that.

I also wonder if my hubby would be more open to having another baby if we didn't already have one girl and one boy. If we had two girls, would he want to try for a boy? I know some dads who have. Of course, I never understood the whole "one of each" obsession...

Robin P

I wanted to have 2 but I never got pregnant again after Lillianna was born. Lillianna will be 8 years old tomorrow.

There are times I wish Lillianna had a sibling but most times I am happy that she is our only child.
Financially,we couldn't afford more than one child. I have to work (between 2 jobs it comes out to 36 hours/week) and for the first few years my mom really helped out with taking care of Lillianna. I knew she couldn't handle two.She made it clear she couldn't handle two!! Now she lives in Florida 6 months of the year so I would have to juggle work and 2 kids.....at 42,I wouldn't even want to risk another pregnancy.

I have the best of both worlds,though. My sister will be getting married next year and she wants to get pregnant on her honeymoon. That means I will have a baby...I mean SHE will have a baby within 2 years! Guess who will be taking care of that child? ME! She still wants to work part time. She and her fiance own a business together. So,I'll get my baby fix.

When I was pregnant,my mom said,"This is going to be a share baby," because everyone wanted "in" on taking care of her. My sister's baby will be the same way. We are a small family and share everything!!

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