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November 17, 2006



Good that you kept a sense of humor about this, and eventually it worked out. We had a rough start latching on but soon we got the hang of it, and now I have the opposite problem as you; she won't take a bottle and I am about to go back to work!


What was Madeline like? I had similar problems with both my children. I gave up after the first 3 weeks with my first. With the 2nd, I perservered, and it took us 3+ months, but at the end of those three months, we really did have it figured out. After that, it was indeed an amazing and beautiful experience. Everyone's experience will vary, but I tell mine to show that it can be hard, for quite a while, and still turn beautiful. The first 3+ months were very hard, but that lead to a 17 month nursing experience that I will always treausre.


amy h.

I just wanted to write to tell you that your post made me smile - Max is a funny guy and a very good writer for his age! I'm sorry that things have been so rough - but I'm glad to read that you are finding some relief now...you deserve it!

Imperfect Mommy

Thanks to everyone for the great comments! Since I have written this, I have found a bit of a solution... I have been feeding him in his Baby Bjorn (which is a bit difficult, but possible) and it seems keeping him upright helps a great deal! I think it is a gulping/burping/reflux thing and this seems to help. Plus I can bounce around the house a bit while feeding him which keeps him relaxed. It is quite a workout for me, but I can tolerate it. Thank goodness he nurses at night lying down though!


More power to you for hanging in there as long as you have. I had a negative breastfeeding experience, too. My son just would not latch on no matter what. I pumped for six weeks so he could get the benefits of breast milk, but the double duty was tough. Once I started on formula, I was way more relaxed and was able to enjoy a bottle-bonding (yes it is possible!) feeding experience. Today, he's a healthy, happy 2.5 year old!


I don't know if you're dedicated or crazy (said w/a smile!) I will say - that #1 son was a formula baby b/c of medication I was on. My second 2 children were breast fed - (they took to it - it was easy - lucky me) The formula kid is bright, close to me and doesn't show any negative signs of being formula fed. I guess I'm just saying - a kid needs a happy mommy and there's no shame in deciding the kid can have some formula.

Good luck! I hope it works out for you.

Robin P

Lillianna only nursed for TWO DAYS!! She just didn't like it one bit. As soon as I gave her a bottle,she sucked it all down,burped and slept for hours!!
Oh well....what can ya do?

Heather C.

My daughter never liked breastfeeding, and I think I liked it even less. She did pretty good the first day (right after she popped out of my belly), but it got worse and worse until all I did was pump breast milk so she could take it in a bottle. We carried on that way for 4 weeks. Then we found out she was allergic to milk (including breast milk) so we had to give her special formula only. (This was temporary and she could take regular milk at 1 year.) Despite the news about the allergy, I was so relieved! I felt like God had released me from a terrible burden. I was glad, though, that she had received the benefits of breast milk for 4 weeks, when it's most important.

Now I'm pregnant with my second child and dreading the breast-feeding, but trying very hard not to.


Dearest Max,
You sound just like my two daughters at that age. I don't know why those first few months of nursing have to be so hard. You will both get past this. I know you can do it.

Beth A.

That sounds just like my daughter during the period before her reflux got really bad, at just about the same age as Max. She would eat for a little while, then her stomach would fill up to the point that food would start coming back up, and then she wouldn't want to eat any more. Bottles worked better than the breast because she was able to get the milk down faster before the pain started, so she could eat more.

What worked for us was giving up soy along with reflux meds. Have you discussed this with your pediatrician?


I didn't have so many problems getting my daughter to nurse but whenever there was a bottle offered, she sucked it down in seconds while nursing seemed to take ages and ages. I also noticed that my breasts never seemed to be really full of milk. But the baby was gaining weight and so I just carried on as usual, with a single bottle from her dad in the middle of the night so that I could get some sleep. At about 3 months I needed to get her on bottles for the day time and thought that I would still like to breastfeed at night and in the morning, but the minute she had access to the bottles she refused the breast outright. I was really surprised at this but around the same time I started noticing that she couldn't stick out her tongue or blow raspberries like all the other babies her age. I started researching on the internet and eventually figured out that this was due to the fact that her tongue was tied. She could barely move it at all. I talked to my pediatrician about this and she blew it off, saying that there was no point in cutting the skin because eventually it would probably stretch out on its own. The only really bad thing about a baby being tongue-tied is that they often have a very difficult time breastfeeding. Bottles are much easier. Maybe this is the problem your son is having. The only problem is that pediatricians are very much against any sort of intervention on a baby (even something as benign as this) so you may not have solved the problem even if you have identified it. Good luck though!

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