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September 18, 2005



Great post -- I'd just been thinking on how much I say no when I should say yes!


Julie, I LOVED this post because (1) it inspired a post on my own blog, and (2) it reminded me of how lucky I am (being a nay-sayer myself) to be married to a yay-sayer. Thanks!

Melanie Lynne Hauser

Funny, I've had to learn to say "no" more often, in order to have time for myself. I thought that saying "yes" all the time was a sign of weakness!


I liked this post so much that I linked to it on my blog. I hope that is okay with you.


Saying 'NO' is a good thing. I am one of those people who says 'yes' before thinking things through, just because i'm afraid i will upset someone. Over the years i have learned to say no more often, especially at work. But i still wish i was a 'born no sayer'.


Too often I've said yes when I'd rather say no, for fear of offending. One of the hardest things is to say "I don't feel like it." But that's getting easier. My best and truest answer is usually "I'm not feeling sociable."


Im a yes sayer.. you want ice cream? sure! you want to cut your hair? I dont care.

My husband thinks I need to get better at saying NO!


I think I am a naysayer, too, despite knowing how draining it can be at times. In many ways, it's a form of self-protection for me.

For what it's worth, your blog entries always strike me as positive and open-minded!


I think you just helped me figure out my husband. Thanks.

Robin P

Great post. I used to say "no" to everything because I was so cautious. When I lived in Israel I met my friend,Charlotte,who was from Denmark. When she asked me one Friday morning if I wanted to go on a weekend trip with her and 2 other friends of ours I immediately said no. She asked why. For every reason I came up with,she came up with an answer.
Reason #1:My money is in the volunteer office and I can't get it til tonight.
Charlotte's solution: Go ask the volunteer leader if he'll open it at lunch instead of dinner for you.(He did,happily.)
Reason #2: I didn't have Sunday off from work.
Charlotte's solution: Go ask for it off.(I got it. Without any problem.)
Reason #3: I'm not packed.
Charlotte's solution: After work,I'll help you pack in time for us to leave.(She sure did!)

So,I worked through my obstacles which really weren't obstacles except in my mind,and I had the best time in Jericho with my friends. It was the first time I did anything on the spur of the moment and I have done it many times since then because of how wonderful that experience was for me.

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